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Technically, she blinded me with a filmy scarf strapped in place hard by, I think, a belt. But I can't be sure. I've been contemplating writing for a friend's online web magazine under the Millard Fillmore pseudonym; writing a column attempting to demystify kinky behaviors for muggles. I want to, but I need herself's permission, of course. There are a couple of reasons for that. The first is that a monthly piece will take up some of my time, and that is hers to control. The second is that any exposure of Mr and Mrs Fillmore to outside scrutiny potentially exposes us publicly. It's not like I'm a public figure, but a friend or acquaintance recognizing us from my writing could suck, a lot. Part of the point of writing about kink is to normalize it so getting outed wouldn't be catastrophic, but I have no illusions I will change the world, and certainly not before some high school acquaintance reads something and figures out its us.
All that aside (I could just use a different pseudonym and not connect it to this blog) I do know what I want to write about first. And that is the pioneering work of Dr Brad Sagarin and his team at the University of Northern Illinois. They study BDSM and the kink community in a scholarly way and publish some fascinating work. I heard about them on a few podcasts, and think they will make a great jumping off point for communicating the nature of kinky behavior to curious muggles. As an aside, I visited their site tonight to poke around. Herself told me to stop fucking around on Facebook and Fetlife and get writing, so this will be my second post today, and while I thought I'd save this for tomorrow, I found something on their site I wanted to share. They are doing a study on folks who have lived in vanilla (non power exchange) relationships AND in power exchange relationships. So if you have that kind of experience, go here to participate in the study.
If you haven't but are still interested in their work, you can follow that same link and click back to their home page. I'll definitely be discussing some of their work as I get a chance to read some of their papers. These folks are doing important work, work that shows the true impact of kinky behavior, and the nature of the kink community.